Never be to fast to jump to conclusions. For example suppose a friend take over a week to reply to your email about expecting a new baby. Maybe it’s not because they don’t care, maybe it’s because they lost all their money at a stag do in Savannah, and then got lost in the projects for 4 hours and then missed their flight home. I have some great friends.
I on the other hand am shit at keeping up with my friends news, and have no cool excuse. I should be better at this thing. I find it very hard to sit down and right a emails to the people I have fallen out of contact with. I think it’s a combination of shame for having been such a crap friend and not keeping in contact, and the fear that they’ll either not reply, or reply with indifference. If believe you have ten friends, then by never contacting them you can’t find out that you actually have no friends.
It doesn’t help that I find it easier to write about esoteric garbage than to write about my life. I think there’s something in the rules of friendship that says you can’t start an email to someone you haven’t spoken to in 9 months with a rant about JQuery, or a missive about what a cock you think P-Diddy is. Shame that.